Six ways to stay attractive to your husband in an amusement park of immodesty

The temperatures are rising, and clothes are coming off. My family had a sudden reminder of this universal truth of summer when we spent two weeks in hot, sunny Florida in May. I am no longer what I was, and, as we walked through SeaWorld, I fell into despondency. Everywhere I looked there were women, both younger than me and about my age who seemed more physically fit, prettier, better dressed, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera.

I can’t compete in the attractiveness department any longer, I complained to myself. You’re on the downhill slope. Your husband is pretty loyal, so he probably won’t trade you in for a younger model. But don’t kid yourself. He’d be happier with someone else.

Sickening, right? I didn’t want to be around me, so I could just imagine how my husband felt.

And then I realized it. I’m the one my husband chose. (I know…shocker.) He enjoys my company. Why wasn’t I encouraging that? (I’m not stupid. I’ve had this revelation before, but sometimes we all need a kick in the skirt.)

Whether you adhere to any standards of modesty or not, you probably don’t want your husband staring at the business end of another girl’s undergarment and its’ contents. (I apologize for the bluntness. Blame the girl.)

So, what do you do when your husband is surrounded by immodesty?

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Here are six suggestions.

Wear an outfit he likes. There have been plenty of times when I have returned or donated an item of clothing I loved because my husband didn’t like it on me. I would be shooting myself in the foot if I insisted on wearing an outfit he didn’t like to look at.

Smile. It sounds simple, I know. But think about it. Those college girls may have curves you don’t have, or not have curves you do have, but one of your most attractive features is your smile. And your husband likes your smile. Besides, you may be the only one smiling at him.

Flirt. This includes complimenting and appreciating him. If he holds the door for you and the baby stroller, say thank you…with a flirty smile or an eyelash flutter. If he pushes the stroller up a steep hill, let him know you admire his muscles. If he changes a mean diaper, tell him how much you appreciate it.

Share a private joke. Every couple has secret jokes – things that make each other laugh that no one else understands. I would share one here, but then it wouldn’t be private anymore. J This can bring his focus back to you and your history together.

Use a signal. If you have a husband who is sensitive to the issue of immodesty, develop a signal so that you can alert him to avert his eyes when necessary. I tell my husband that I really like his shoes or that I think he needs a new pair of shoes. He then knows to look away or down. (If you’re not sure how your husband feels about this whole topic, perhaps this is a good time to talk to him. Share your concerns, and, if he is willing, you two can develop your own signal.)

Pray. Unceasingly. (1 Thessalonians 5:17) ‘Nuff said.

~Meghan

Which of these works for you? Any new ideas you’re going to try? Or do you have something to add? If anyone sells husband blinders, please put your link in the comments below! 


Other posts in this series:
Do you feel pretty? ~ Lilla Rose giveaway
Six ways to stay attractive to your husband ~ coming home

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