Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Ten Potty-Training Tips


I wanted to name this post “Ten Potty-Training Tips You Can’t Live Without.” That would be a pretty catchy title, wouldn’t it?

But I didn’t want to deceive you.

Here's the truth ~ my ten potty-training tips aren’t guaranteed to do anything except frustrate you. This is my fifth child to train, so you’d think I’d have it figured out by now.

Nope.


I have a strong-willed 3 ½ year old who is OVERDUE to use the potty. He knows what he needs to do. He just doesn’t want to do it.

I was hoping you might help me out, since you’re smarter than I am. Can you improve the list?

  1. Talk ~ until you’re blue in the face. Read books about the potty and watch videos about the potty until you can sing the potty songs in your sleep.
  2. Promise new, special underwear.
  3. Try underwear on the child so he can feel how comfortable they are.
  4. Purchase the child’s choice of a snazzy new potty-seat and let him carry it around the store and hold it in his lap on the way home.
  5. Pray. Pray some more.
  6. Have the other children encourage him.
  7. Promise the reward of a big bag of Dum-Dums. (No, I don’t mean us. . . .)
  8. Sit him on the potty seat, hold his hand, read a book, and rub his back.
  9. Let the other children quote John 11:38, when the child in need of training needs a change. “Behold, he stinketh!”
  10. Leave the underwear on him and let him have some accidents. (For obvious reasons, that’s not something I’m eager to do.)




So, here’s the thing. I need help. And I’m sure I’m not the only one out there who could use some advice. Please, please, leave your magic comments. A few prayers would be appreciated as well. But be kind. I already know I’m a dum-dum. J










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41 comments:

  1. Summer is the best season to liberate your child from the diaper. ;-) Let your child play outside in the garden without diaper ( nappie). If it pee in pants, you put them quickly to the bathroom/toilet, so the link is clear.


    Anyway ... the girls here were around their third year without a diaper ( nappie?), even in the night dry. The boys later. Good luck. Do not start too early. And ... only use cotton nappies ;-)


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    1. I have heard of others doing this, and I would definitely want him to be outside. I'd have to keep a close eye on Samuel, though, or he would end up streaking through the neighborhood! Thanks for the idea!

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  2. My 2 year old was doing really well on the potty and then we started going backwards, the reason, we stopped giving a treat every time she went. We are still working on it but getting better.

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    1. I've found that to be the problem with the other children -- they expect the treats to continue indefinitely. But, they're fine now, so I know we'll get there. It's just a matter of time. Thanks for commenting!

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  3. You may want to step back and completely ignore it for a while. I know how hard that is. My second girl didn't even show the slightest interest until after she turned four. (And even now at 4.5 I still have to remind her, a lot.) But it happened, on her terms. Between age 2.5 (the age my first daughter learned) and 4, I about lost my mind multiple times. And prayed for patience over and over again. He may just not be ready.

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    1. You're right. Each child is different, and it's impossible to see inside their little brains to tell when they're ready. Thank you so much for reminding us moms that it's okay to wait a bit.

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    2. That was going to be my suggestion . . . be patient, it will happen! I sadly was forceful with potty training my 1st and she pushed back but eventually potty trained. So with #2, I did not want to be overbearing so I encouraged it and asked him every day at about the same times each day if he would like to try the potty. He usually said no, but would sometimes just try it out. I came to realize he was afraid of the toilet. So we would do silly things like put Cheerios in the toilet and I told him to try to pee on them (target practice). We tried sticker charts and prizes for trying. And when he made any progress, we actually took a picture of what he had made in the toilet and made a huge deal of it. I'm not sure if any of those things were more effective than the other. One thing he really enjoyed using was the "potty watch." It is a watch that looks like a toilet, it tells the time and is basically a timer that goes off at intervals you set to remind the child to go to the bathroom. It's helpful because it prompts me to ask him if he needs to go potty. One day, at 3.5 he decided to use the toilet and never had an accident, and didn't wet the bed at night either! It was frustrating to me that it took so long, but the end results were amazing and worth the wait.

      Keep up all the good efforts!! He will get there.

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    3. I've never heard of a potty watch before. I had forgotten until your comment that we did set the timer for the last child to prompt ourselves to take her to the bathroom. With six children and homeschooling, I just don't think about asking him at regular intervals. Thanks so much for your suggestions, Mindy.

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  4. Unfortunately I think #10 is the best and fastest way to achieve success when it comes to potty training. At any rate, it worked for us! It's a big fat pain in the patootie, but it's effective.

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    1. Can you come help, Anne? :) I think we're coming to that, or at least a try at that, soon. Thanks for sharing today!

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  5. Alas, Meghan. I do not have any additional wisdom to impart. I think some kids are just harder to train than others. Hang in there! They can't go to kindergarten in diapers, right?!
    Stopping by from Mom's Monday Mingle and am now signed up to follow. :)

    http://michellemossey.blogspot.com

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    1. Well, I've never heard of one going to kindergarten in diapers, but I've wondered about a couple! Thanks for the encouragement and the follow, Michelle!

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    2. When I was a toddler, my pediatrician assured my mother that she should not stress about potty-training, as it would almost certainly be done by the time I got to college :P She has never tired of passing on that little gem of advice, but it's not nearly as funny when your the one wearing the mom hat!

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  6. Aahhhh...yes, been there done that 4 times. lol! Its never the same with each child is it?! Good luck!

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    1. Is that what frustrates us moms the most -- that each child's potty-training is different? We finally have success with the first, but then the second changes it all. If we could have a system to implement that would guarantee results within a week, how wonderful would that be? Thanks for the encouragement today, Carla!

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  7. Ahh, yes, we always went straight to underwear. My poor floors paid for it, but I think it helped! That and treats :D Visiting from TTT!

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    1. I think that's the consensus -- underwear and treats. But I think I might wait for a long weekend when the Mr. will be around to help -- reinforcements! Thanks for sharing your tip!

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    2. Dh taking the time to demonstrate (bringing ds with him every time dh went) really got us over the initial hump. For boys, it's ever so much more fun to do something if you aren't forced to sit for it.

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    3. Yes, there is that special bond between father and son. Now that you mention it, I remember noticing with our older boy that he responded better to potty-training with Daddy. Thanks!

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  8. I am going through almost the same thing right now, so this was very timely! My daughter is only 2.5 though.... maybe it's too early, but I so badly want to be down to one in diapers! :)

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    1. One in diapers? It's been a few years since I had that, but maybe soon! There are some great comments here, Kayla. I hope they are helpful. Thanks so much for stopping in!

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  9. Still having some struggles with our 3 year old, but I think going directly to underwear worked best along with a prize box that I gradually phased out. I hated the mess (we have carpet)so I took some cloth diapers (just the cheap square cloth ones you buy in any store), made a make-shift pattern and then cut and sewed them into the underwear. That way, she still felt the wetness but it didn't *always* puddle on the floor :-). when we have rough days, I remind myself it won't last forever.

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    1. I have some padded "training pants" that we've used before. Like you said, he'll feel the wetness but perhaps it won't puddle on the carpet. That's a great idea, though, to make more. I'll be trying that soon! Thanks, Jenna!

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  10. I really think some are harder than other. I heard cheerios in the toiled so that they can 'sink' them help. For us with the middle boy nothing worked. Finally ended up guilting him and then he never had another accident. Even was night time trained from that moment on. Some ones you just have to find that secret compartment that turns the switch on.

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    1. Each child is so different! That's the general trick in mothering, I think, that finding of the "secret compartment that turns the switch on." Thanks for your encouragement today, Sherri.

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  11. These are the strategies that worked for me. Your #10 is easier if you put a nylon diaper cover over underpants--they'll feel wet but won't leak for a *small* accident, and that can help encourage the kid as well as reduce clean-up.

    We had good results with a sticker chart rather than food treats. Recently, to help our now-7-year-old get some behavior problems under control, we've set up a treasure chest, which also might work well for toilet-training.

    Good luck!!!
    ---'Becca

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    1. Stickers are exciting to young children -- that's a great idea. Thanks for commenting, Becca.

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  12. I always enjoy reading your posts. You make everything entertaining, even potty training. Here are some tips I like to use. Put underwear on and then a pull up. They get the wet gross feeling without all the mess. Also, I like to have my kids "teach" one of their beloved stuffed animals to go on the potty. We put a pull up on the animal and everything. The fun part is when the animal is dry, then the teacher get a reward too. I think a lot of emphasis is put on going on the potty and not the why. They need to stay clean and dry. Instead of pushing the potty, I push the clean and dry thing. I reward for it as well as going on the potty. After they get the idea, I punish for not staying clean and dry. Those are just my techniques. I've only potty train 2 girls and helped with 1 boy so i'm not an expert by any means. Thanks for sharing at Mom's Library!

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    1. That sounds perfect -- the child would feel the wetness of the underwear but the pull-up would save mom from having to clean up a mess. Excellent ideas! Thanks so much for your helpfulness and for the link-up!

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  13. You and I are in the same boat!

    I've had moderate success allowing him to pee outside if he wants too. As long as it doesn't end up in his pants or on the floor or furniture, we're calling it a win. This is especially the case when we are out, as he is deathly afraid of public bathrooms (thank you, auto-flush toilet).

    He has to help clean up any mess he makes. We reward him for going on his own OR for telling us when he needs to go--even if he tells us too late to get him to the toilet on time.

    Right now, our big deal is that when he poops in the toilet, he gets an evening out with Daddy--that means either watching the game with Daddy over a soda or spending half an hour at a penny arcade nearby.

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  14. Please do not believe yourself a failure. I am on my tenth and I always joke about "Flunking Potty Training 101". Each child is different and it seems to take some a little longer to catch the whole routine. Our son just turned 3 and just before his birthday he asked to walk in the store rather than ride in the cart. I told him that children in diapers must ride in the cart and that when he goes potty and wears big boy underwear he can walk. Whoa! He began potty-training himself THAT DAY! He still has accidents, which are rewarded outside with a thorough cleaning with the garden hose (not in anger, just matter-of-factly). He is catching on and proudly announces each time he remembers to make come inside to potty. It will happen eventually. ;)

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    1. Wow! That's all it took? It seems that each child is so different that you just can't really predict what will actually make the training successful. Thanks so much, Cheryl, for sharing your experience!

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  15. Oh my word - I feel so much better after reading this (and laughing at your humor!)...i have a 2 1/2 yr old that is regressing. He started everything in life early - and potty training as well. And then we bought a house and have been packing our things, I think that sent him into massive regression. But now I don't feel like such a failure. I do #10 - which is a pain in the behind, but it does work most days (except lately he's just been holding everything and peeing and doing the other when I put a diaper on him at naptime).

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    1. BTW - stopping by from WIP Wednesday. Blessings from Croatia: A Little R & R: www.littlerandr.org

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    2. That makes sense, Rosilind, that he would begin having accidents again when your focus is elsewhere. That makes it difficult for you, though, as you are trying to get settled in a new house. I would be tempted just to put pull-ups on him to minimize the mess and deal with it (#10) after the move. It sounds like he's doing really well for being only two! Many blessings to you, and thanks so much for visiting again from Croatia!

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  16. I'm hoping to do some early potty training with my son. He wants to sit on the potty now, but never does anything. I've always read that cold trukey is the way to go. Commit 3-4 days to the process and just do it. But then again, I've never done it, so who am I to say!! haha.
    Thanks for linking up with WIP!

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    1. Sounds like a good start, Mary Beth. I'd let him sit as often as he likes. Blessings to you in that endeavor!

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  17. Sadly, I too am bereft of wisdom on this subject (I am convinced my last child, a girl, who virtually potty-trained herself was God's way of telling me He heard me and understood about the others I suffered through!) But, what I can tell you is this: Eventually they all get potty-trained. I know, not earth-shattering or brilliant is it? Still, none of mine started kindergarten in diapers. And that is a little encouraging, I hope. Hang in there mama! Thanks for sharing and for linking up with NOBH! Smiles -

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