Monday, March 3, 2014

Why I Almost Quit My Daughter's Modest Mondays...But Didn't

You’ve probably noticed that I’ve only posted a couple of My Daughter’s Modest Mondays so far this year. I’ve been in turmoil about this ongoing theme for a while and wanted to be completely honest with you about my thinking.

Why I almost quit ~

I'm just not "into" fashion. Clothes serve a purpose for me. They aren't a hobby. Blogging about clothing choices made me feel artificial, like I was going along just to be a part of the group. I love the outfits of many bloggers I follow and the outfits of many in-real-life friends. It just seems that when it comes to choosing my own clothing, I can't muster up enthusiasm.

I don't want to alienate readers who don't wear skirts all the time. I really want my blog to be a ministry to all. I wouldn't be fulfilling my purpose if someone left my blog because they thought I condemned them for wearing jeans. Which is kind of funny...remember I wore jeans for the first 32 years of my life? J And I definitely understand the difficulties of skirt-wearing in our current culture.

Why I'm not quitting ~

I do like the outfits my girls put together. Every once in a while, I like to shop and put clothes together (especially during half-off day at the thrift store J). This weekly post covers the few minutes that happens. J

My girls like these posts. They aren’t “into” fashion, either…well, except maybe the 8yo. J But they like what they put together, and I want to encourage their femininity.

I want to encourage those of you who are pursuing modesty. I've heard from several women who are alone in this, and I want my blog to continue to be a life-line of sorts.

Hopefully, these posts encourage others who see clothing as purely practical. Obviously, we don't spend a ton of time on our style, but we're neat and clean. That's okay for us, and it's okay for you, too. For those of you who love clothing design, maybe you can leave me some suggestions. J





What the 12yo wore ~

Denim skirt ~ thrift store
Striped shirt ~ Hand-me-down from me
Brown shoes ~ her favorite pair from Payless J


Lilla Rose flexi ~ half-up in an extra-small Copper Rose flexi 













More snow in our area yesterday. Are you blue where you are? Love these blues from Lilla Rose! J



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34 comments:

  1. I am so glad you're not quitting them! I have never felt your posts alienated jeans-wearers (like me. :) ) but I looooove to see how you promote modesty with your young girls. That's when it starts. I sometimes fear that moms feel it's not as important in little girls - and they let them wear short skirts and halter tops - even though they'd probably not allow that as they grow older and develop. But it DOES start young - building that mindset of what modesty really means. And I love how you so beautifully model that for us.

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  2. I'm glad you aren't quitting, I read every monday when I see your link on the modest mom blog.

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  3. I understand all of your reasons above! I'm glad you are not quitting though, I really enjoy seeing others posts of modest outfits, it inspires me. I am not that into fashion either, but I don't think that is a bad thing. Thank you for sharing our pictures and your heart.
    Blessings.

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  4. I'm glad you're still doing them. I always found them to be sweet & she is so cute. It's nice to see someone her age that is not all 'tarted-up'!

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  5. Nice to see modest outfits - getting to be more and more rare in our culture. Thank you for posting. Gentle Joy

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  6. I enjoy the outfit posts---but what I REALLY want to know is what they're checking out from the library! Ha! :) We need some fresh ideas... :) :) :)

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  7. I think encouraging your girls in their femininity is soooo important! I recently began wearing skirts to church for the first time since I was a little girl. I really think God is encouraging me to embrace my femininity, also as an older woman, I am an example to other women, whether I realize it or not. I think your modest Mondays is a good idea!

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  8. So glad to see this! I was missing them. Right now we're back to wearing jeans and slacks because of the cold but we're missing our skirts and dresses. Next winter we'll be in a slightly warmer climate and I'm not taking "it's cold" as an excuse for my girls or myself. Besides, I really don't look good in jeans and a giant baggy shirt to cover where I sit on ;)

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  9. Love your modest mondays! as a pants wearing woman i do not feel alienated, but rather inspired in ways i can be modest as I seek to wear more skirts.

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  10. Love these posts Meghan...keep them coming! Your girls are adorable. ♥

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  11. Another who is glad to see you continue. Please let your girls know that they are an encouragement to my 17 & 16 yo daughters who sometimes feel like "fish out of water" for their clothing choices. :-)

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  12. Ladies, please forgive my lack of response to each of you individually. My husband and I share a laptop (for now), and right now he needs it for a while. I'm on my iPad which is rather small and a little sluggish.

    Thank you -- thank you!! -- for all of your kind words and your encouragement! You all have blessed me, and my girls are thrilled that they can encourage other young ladies. I so much appreciate your time spent here reading and commenting. I know time is a precious commodity, and I value that you spend some with me. :-)

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  13. I'm not a skirt wearing girl (just in the summer), but I've never felt put off by your posts. :)

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    1. Thank you, Lindsey. I appreciate your presence here! :-)

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  14. I too appreciate these posts. As a mom of 3 daughters under 6, I'm appalled by the clothing options even for them, and your posts always inspire and encourage me that there are modest options even for teens. Keep them coming!

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    1. I know exactly what you mean, Keri. My girls and I are absolutely shocked at some of the garments that are marketed at little girls. Thank you so much for your encouragement!

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  15. I'm very happy to have found your blog! I've been asking the Lord to direct me to more like-minded bloggers and huzzah, here you are. I stumbled in with this post, and it's a topic close to my heart. Dearest, do not be discouraged! Things like this are important to you because the Lord has impressed it upon your heart. It's inspirational to women like myself who're still infants in Christ and still working to discern our place as Christian women. There's nothing wrong with jean skirts, apart from the prices that places like Christopher & Banks try to choke out of us. ;)

    Stay strong in your convictions, Sister. Jesus has control. ;) Be blessed!

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    1. Oh, Natalie, my girls love Christopher & Banks skirts...from the thrift store. :-) Our convictions aren't wavering. I just wasn't sure I should continue with this line of posts. But here you are, confirming for me the very reason I started in the first place! Your sweet comment has blessed me beyond measure today. Thank you, Natalie!

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    2. Oh no, I wasn't questioning your convictions! I was just expressing the hope that you'd not stifle yourself on here in order to appease those who don't share them. :)

      And you're welcome! Yours is a blog that I can look to and not feel pressured to set aside the modesty that I'm slowly, but joyfully, adapting to.

      God bless!

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  16. I love reading your modesty posts! I am not a skirt wearer although this year I resolved to wear only skirts and dresses to church and starting today I am giving up pants today (Ash Wednesday), all the Fridays of Lent and the whole Easter Triddum (Holy Thursday, Good Friday and Easter Saturday and Sunday). I am excited about it and wouldn't have been if it wasn't for blogs like yours that have drawn me in for over a year now! Blessings on your week!

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    1. I am excited for you, Kari!! Praying for you over these holy days! :-)

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  17. I am so glad that you are not quitting these posts! :-) My daughters loves seeing what your daughters are wearing. Many times, I know she feels alone because she doesn't often see other families who wear skirts exclusively like ours. Wish we lived closer! :-)

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    1. Lisa, you were on my mind when I thought of those that are encouraged by these posts. I am so glad your daughter is encouraged here! And I agree -- wish we lived closer, friend! :-)

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  18. Although we don't dress the same, we, too, are committed to modesty and God-honoring lady-like-ness for our daughter, and I appreciate your sharing from your heart and your personal convictions. I think it's great encouragement for your daughters and honesty as a writer that gains you even more respect from your readers. Thanks for sticking with it! :)

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    1. Thank you, Angela, for your sweet encouragement. I'm here for relationships, and you can't have a relationship without honesty and trust. Blessings to you! :-)

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  19. Ditto here! We love seeing the lovely, modest outfit.

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    1. Thank you, Michelle! I appreciate your time here. :-)

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  20. Meghan, I'm glad you will continue these posts. I admit I have been offline for a while and didn't read any of my blogs, but I've always enjoyed (will enjoy) seeing your daughters' modest mondays outfits. I am committed in dressing my daughter in a modest fashion and your posts are always so encouraging.
    God Bless!

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    1. Bee, I love your profile picture! It's lovely. Thank you so much for reading, and prayers as you follow your commitment! :-)

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  21. I'm glad you're not quitting. I don't wear skirts all the time but I love seeing you living out your beliefs and passing them down to your girls. Your posts have made me consider my own feminity and I certainly look at how I'm dressed more. You've also encouraged me to wear dresses and skirts more. Thanks!

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    1. Ruthie, your comment is such a blessing to me! Thank you for taking the time to comment here, and I'm praying for you as you follow your heart. :-)

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  22. I'm glad you decided to continue the posts. I'm not a skirt-wearer all the time but I try to wear them when able (too much snow=leggings underneath jeans for me, no skirts allowed!). I love seeing how others pair their skirts with different tops, accessories, and shoes. It's very encouraging for me too, to see younger girls setting their minds to wearing skirts at a young age, and embracing femininity. My goal is to move to skirts full-time, and I will get there eventually. :)

    -Amber from xmydearambellina.com

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